Writing and Loving
1. learning to love what you've written (writing successive versions which are ever more lovable)
2. cutting the great bulk of what you've written (much of which you had just come to love).
We could call it tough love. Or simply editing, which seems to demand from one all possible versions of love towards one's own writing (from tender to sado-masochistic to abusive), plus a few of the lesser and more perverse forms.